Are almost 25 years that i'm involved with Junior Football at different level and i seen a lot of good things and bad things about Parents which has conditioned the careers of many young players that i have had the honor of coaching ,for good or for bad
And i synthesised all my experiences in 10 keys points
What not to do:
1 Get involved with coaches decision ( .........you should play striker the coach do not understand your potential)
2 Criticise others kids performance in front of your son/daughter
3 Keep talking about the game, even after the game ends ( you should pass....you should take him on etc etc )
4 Praise too much especially on social media ( you a talent .....you are like messi ....etc etc
or even worst reward with money if they do something good)
5 Overemphasise the game he/her will have to play ( the game is so important we have to win .......)
6 From the sideline keep telling him/her what to do anticipating their Decision making ( do you know that last research on NeuroScience saying that kids learn through their Mistakes?)
7 Remember Soccer is a journey like a school we all learnt from A to Z
8 Don't worry too much about if they win or lose, keep your focus on how much effort they
put on the park and reward the effort not the results
9 Don't make comparisons between your son/daughter with others in the team ( you should play like him.....why you can not run fast like her.....) Remember each individual needs different times to reach maximum development
10 Stop to be worry about what you can do for him/her.
RELAX is only about him/her make it happen
What To Do:
1 If you have a gifted Child just support him/her without put any pressure
2 If isn't a gifted Child help him/her to set a small and achievable goals reinforce the concept that practice make you better....
3 After the game only one simple question: Did you had fun today?......after the training : did you enjoy? would you like to come back next time?
4 Ask feedback to the coach about his/her development, it is your right to ask
5 Chose a Club or team where your son/daughter can play in the right competition ( not to easy not to hard) and you can understand watching play if he/her enjoyed the game
5 Use Soccer to build her confidence and self-esteem
6 Be aware of Coach behaviour and make sure your son is in a safe and learning soccer environment
7 Encourage to talk with the coach and teammates alone
8 Encourage to watch soccer match on TV would help to build perception
9 Encourage to play street football with friends without coaches or referee
10 Relax and enjoy to watch your children's play, time goes fast and let's remember that they want to see us on the sidelines but they also want feel free to be just a child who chase a ball without the fear of disappointing us if they make mistakes
By Dom Gangemi (sorry if i did some spelling mistakes English is my second language)
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